Narcissistic Hearing

Do we as people truly know how to LISTEN with zero bias? Or, are you a soul whom sometimes, like me tends to lean more towards narcissistic listening. I may be making up a new term, but I would describe narcissistic hearing, as a chosen developed individual practice. People with preferential selfish hearing purposely choose to only accept words and outcomes they desire. Thus, they have personally skewed, whacked hearing practices.

People in denial often tend to have narcissistic hearing. For example a habitual drug user, pill popper, alcoholic, or work monster may be listening and living in denial. An overweight person, whom thinks they are not fat, despite the scale's proof. To people living with these problems, they choose to block out the caring, helpful guidance of others, in the dreamy hope of seeking the answers their insides wish to believe.

For example, when the dentist tells you, after the X-rays develop, you may need to have crowns be inserted and placed over your current teeth. And you are like, what? I'm not even 35 years old, and feel perfectly fine. What the heck?

Here's another example of NH. Say a homeowner thinks their own property is a fixer upper. But in actuality their property although worthwhile, has seen it's glory fade, and is currently in tear-down mode. The fine line between a tear down property and a structure worth remodeling can be very subjective. Often, the owner's of properties only choose to listen to the advice, they WANT to hear.

I have noticed in my 3 decades of life, that it is often difficult for people to remain unbiased and impartial, when it comes to their own self, work, look, and life circle. It is difficult for people to STEP OUT of themselves, and look at life, through the eyes of the rest off the world. This also reminds me to tell the Sample Spectrum readership, to get multiple opinions on life decisions. When the advice you get, continues to repeat like a broken record, then it might be the inevitable truth, and thus should be listened to.

Personally for me, I sometimes am guilty of practicing hearing narcissism. For example, if a girl or person does not agree to my self believed attributes of ex-NYC model handsomeness, intellectual talent, physical height and strength, or all-star personality, I may very easily just right them off. I am not very astute at taking criticisms. Are you, our wonderful reader, able to peacefully listen to sharp character or professional criticisms? As grown adults, we should be able to. What is the best way to handle rejection, along with scornful or non-positive critics?

In a current modern times example, the Republican presidential candidate, Donald Trump is a polarizing figure. Thus far he has been self portrayed in his own speeches as a divider of the United States People. Thus far he has publicly castrated the country's citizens of Mexican American decent and Muslim religion. Who's next? From what I can tell, this so called person, (is it a robot?) does not actually listen to anybody else. I worry if elected, Donald Trump would change the nation's laws, and become a "Putin", "Hugo Chavez" or "Kim Jung-un" style DICTATOR. Where it is either, the leaders way or the wrong way. I hope the governmental philosophies of giving power to the people, and democracy continue to reign over the United States of America.

We can all agree that no one human is perfect. In actuality we all have faults, that hopefully we strive daily to correct, in hopes of becoming the best overall soul, character and person we can be! In the Sample Spectrum of life, there are a wide variety of lifestyles and methods to live by. I advocate for you, our worthy readers AND myself to be able to listen to all opinions, with an easy going, and open-minded heart.